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I get along with most anyone. Living at Loyola during the summer was always one of my greatest pleasures. I enjoyed the summer schedule more than the regular semester, so during the break between my Junior and Senior years, I had the pleasure of living with Hanyeh Khoshnevisan, now known as Hani Hulu, Fashion specialist for JWWWD Magazine.
Religion is a weird topic. It’s so heavy that I sometimes feel it becomes burdensome. Now, I don’t have any particular feelings about religions other than my own (how can you judge what you don’t know), but it doesn’t take long to realize Hanyeh is Muslim – dope headwrap to match. If you take a moment to read her blog, my favorite part is where she speaks on being a Muslim woman, “I like to prove we are not oppressed or less than others just because we are Muslim or because we cover. In reality, we are among the strongest women around.” Sometimes, when I see a girl who covers, I try to tell them about Hani and give them our card. One girl I see on my commute to work semi-ignores me now. I say “Hi” on purpose *shrugs* I don’t care. I don’t have much real live conversation with Hani (or anyone else) so I didn’t want to butcher the word “hijab” & I’m afraid she might have checked me off as an idiot. I know I’m fairly ignorant of the details of that side of the world, but I do know we’re human. As much as we need to teach each other, we need to be willing to learn. Hani is here just as much for girls like her as she is for those who have no real knowledge of her culture. I’m honored to introduce Hani Hulu as JWWWD Magazine’s official Fashion Specialist (I still hate the word blogger & Hani deserves a fancy title).
Not only do I believe Hani is an amazing individual, but her closet is dope. We didn’t talk too much about fashion while we lived together, but I never felt any way about what she wore: Which is an amazing thing. I remember her drawer full of scarves and how I wanted to dive in so badly. Her style has both maintained and blossomed since that summer. Hani has an amazing eye for detail, making each piece she puts on or picks up a masterpiece in its own. I love her style because it can be worn. On her site, she posts outfits for going out with friends, family events and (which I honestly don’t see enough of) going to work. I’ve had many conversations in the past about how fashion shouldn’t be important at work and how work outfits are “boring” but it really doesn’t have to be that way. I love Hani’s contributions to JWWWD because they’re real life. These are simple outfit ideas and inspirations that are easily accessible and imitable (but I’d encourage you to put your own spin on it).
While we lived together Hani and I spoke about music, TV, classes… regular roommate sh*t. The only thing that sucks about summer roommates is you don’t have much time, 2 and a half months, to get to know that person. Especially when I was barely on campus. Hanyeh and I had one conversation concerning religion at about 3pm on a weekday. I had run away from my work study & brought friends over for delightful discussion. I recall we spoke about the Koran but can’t remember much else. The only thing that truly stands out in my memory is how level-headed, attentive and understanding Hani was throughout the conversation. I never asked her much about her religious or cultural customs, as you can only know someone’s mannerisms by watching –and the only thing that truly matters to me is the relationship between two people as individuals aside from the private concerns we each may have. The other thing that stood out about that conversation was that, before a man would enter the house, Hani would always go to our room and wrap her hair. “Can you have him wait?” she had asked. Of-f*cking-course, I had thought.
In my opinion, the most beautiful thing about the Muslim faith and way of life are the distinctions between men and women as well as the guidelines of their interaction. I’m not fully versed in the rules. I know a woman should have her hair covered in front of men who are not part of her family. I believe there’s a similar caution for dancing. But, as with many other things affected by time, people choose to abide while others don’t. I believe it is easier to quit your faith and live “free” than it is to constantly concern yourself with the messages from your higher power. The fact that Hani didn’t hesitate to do what she had to so was admirable. I respected her for that. Especially as a college student, she could have opted to stay as she was and break rules. Who would we have told? Still, the private conversations we have with ourselves are the most testing. Little does Hani know, but that simple action of wrapping her hair exuded the strength I aim for myself. I believe it takes an unnoticed amount of strength to say “no” to someone you’re interested in. To save yourself for that person & to hold back… even if it is “just” your hair. I enjoy being separate from men and trying to understand what they truly means to me as well as in the grand scale of things. I think there’s incomparable beauty in the ideas of womanhood, chastity and honor – ideas that should be highlighted more in all societies. I don’t know Hani’s personal dealings, but I admire the thoughts that come to mind when I think of her.
Fashion scares me. I’ve read through many “fashion blogs” and most times, I’m a bit disappointed. I believe that the reason people look down on fashion is because it has the tendency to lack depth and purpose. I enjoy Hani’s site because I see her shine through and the end product is brilliant. Hani is a normal person. She’s currently pursuing a career in accounting & you can check her elevator pics to see what she wore to work on any given day. She’s gorgeous. Inside and out! She highlights artists and people she knows and even does give-a-ways. At the bottom of each of her posts are readers commenting on how much they enjoy her site and her persona.
I love Hani’s existence. I believe hers is a presence that should be experienced. She is extremely important here at JWWWD Mag as well as to the rest of the world. People should be able to look at one another without so much prejudice and hesitance. We should learn to respect each other as individuals. If, by chance, there are ideas we don’t agree on, we should be willing to sit and listen to the other person. To both teach and learn. We should embrace our differences –that doesn’t mean we have to adopt them. The choices we make in our individual lives are those of our own. It takes so much strength to revel in the characteristics about yourself people judge the hardest –especially since it’s usually those exact characteristics that make us most beautiful.
Thank you, Hani for joining the team. We’re grateful and honored to have you. & sorry this post took forever. You have been and will continue to be appreciated 🙂
To the rest of you: I hope you all enjoy Hani Hulu’s contributions as much as I do. She just keeps getting doper 🙂
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