Actually had a conversation about this last night but… I’m not digging any white boys and don’t really think I’ll end up with one. Would I date one? Sure, why not… but I’m more attracted to and, most times, more compatible with men of color. Black men, to be exact. Perhaps I am a bit abrasive. Rough around the edges. But if a man can’t deal with that, that’s his problem. There are plenty women of any race that are a handful. It’s not just black women. If I had been white and written my posts Pretty Girl [Fight] and Round 2: Unfinished Business, what could have been said about me then? Would you still have attributed that to my race? Why is anything negative have to be representative of whatever race I am –or my skin color? & So what if Black women are more aggressive than White women. That’s why there are Black men. There are men out there (I believe) made for a woman like me. I am not a lost cause and would never being to look at myself that way. If you don’t like you, why would anyone else?
Point is… if any man is stupid enough to not a date a woman because of her skin color… he obviously ain’t the one for me. I’m not here to convert him. I’m not going to try to make him like it. Or “get used to” it. Either a man likes me or he doesn’t. Why would I sit around and complain about men who don’t want me? That’s a waste of time. Instead, I think you should date men who find you irresistible. They treat you better. You shouldn’t have to coax your way into someone’s heart. It should simply happen. I used to be upset at the men who “don’t date Black girls” and wrote posts like “Oh, So You Don’t Like Black Girls,” but I’m sincerely over it. I just don’t see the point in stressing about men who don’t want me (which is what I was trying to tell the girl in Pretty Girl [Fight]). Life is too short. I’d rather give my attention to a man who loves what I look and act like.
With that said — Next post: Attitude: You’ll Never Find a Real Man.